Everything deflated like a balloon. That’s what it felt like to be broken up with. It wasn’t devastating. My identity remained unaltered in her absence, but the air went out. … Continue reading In Defense of Your Ex
“You have an open door, but don’t let people in”
Spoiler alert: it will be ok.
We don’t expect ghost stories to make sense. Neither do eating disorders. That’s not the point of either thing.
I say yes to everything but myself. My boundaries exist like an erased pencil line. I march through life as a strong independent woman, and yet, my stride stumbles whenever … Continue reading I Suck at My Own Boundaries
And to my abusers, assailants, doubters, I say this:
I have slain the dragons capable of devouring you whole.
Call me your victim again, I dare you.
The sticks and stones house the hurt,
But why then, did words form cacophonic scars around my wrists?
Why did they persuade me to flee from the phone—terrified of the acne faced and braced monsters on other end?
Message inside the fleets of spits balls hurled in my direction, my space jeers at my imperfections
I turned the words on myself—allowed their demons to infect me
The toxic syllables, forming wicked symphonies, my tragic melody
The fear that ravaged my insides, “You too fat!”
“Every last bit of you is used and unwanted from your fat ass to liver bile!”
My insides shrieked and raged for years on end, until I was as frail and weak and broken on the outside as much as within.
Drowning in a sea of Lexapro and choked by my barbed-wire scars, there was no terrain or mist—just the indefinite abyss.
It swished me around and swallowed me.
And when I was spit out, I was debris.
But as I learned, ruin is a gift.
The vocabulary adhesive had washed off of me.
My wrecked remains were the titanium that survived their language.
And so they assembled—shards of intelligence and compassion and persistence all fused together.
I became a Venus de Milo of resilience,
A Boadicea of acceptance.
Measuring my life in smiles and joy, instead of purges and cuts
Their sticks became my kindling,
Their stones my jewelry,
But their words are fossils—
Evidence that they (and I) were wrong.
Wide Hipped, supple-lipped
How I mutilated your alabaster planes,
Dissected your divine abundance,
I hated you.
Battered your matter to a gaunt shell,
Dyed it with bruises and speckled in scars
Manifestation of my insecurity that you inhaled
The elixirs I imbibed,
How easy they made it for me to abandon you,
Rendering you victim to unwanted hands and darkened plans,
I burned your wild curls,
Tamed the natural ringlets.
That nose edges over slightly to one side–
I wanted a scalpel to erase it.
I wanted a doctor’s straw to sip and suck at my stomach and thighs,
Remove all my softness,
Make my hourglass a line.
With purges and fasts and hours running like the thief of my being,
I tried to shrink.
When you wouldn’t contract,
I tried to vacate you,
But your intangible strength assuaged my pain.
You held on and thrived.
You are the miracle.
The speed of your stride, the sway of your hips,
The grin of your lips,
The universe at the meeting of your ample thighs,
This is my atonement and a love letter to you.
My darling, marvelous body:
Porous melodic perfection
Seamstress of my reveries
Composer of my emotions
Drummer to my rants, raves and commotions
Host to my ascending soul
You are beautiful, infinite, and whole.